Relationships. If you’ve ever had one, you know that when they’re going great, life is great! But when they’re not so great, everything in your life is affected.

What actually happens in a relationship that takes it from being fun, playful and amazing to lifeless, boring and often full of conflict? Better yet, what would it take for your relationship to keep getting better and better all the time? What if every day of your relationship was better than the day before? What if new possibilities kept showing up? What if more joy, more ease, more space and more of everything you desire was your reality?

There are several habits that we often fall into in our relationships that can ruin it and keep us from having the joyful, generative and creative connection with our partner that is possible. The good news is, you can change it. You always have a choice, which means you can always choose something different.

Would you be willing to let go of the habits that are ruining your relationship? Would you like to choose something else?

Here are 5 habits that ruin a relationship and empowering tools to change it.

1.Comparing to Others

How much do you judge you? How much do you compare yourself to others? Compare your partner to others? Compare your relationship to others? Are you always looking around to see if you are fitting in? Making sure that your relationship is acceptable? Making sure that you’re doing it right?The problem with comparison is that we always end up concluding that something must be wrong with us.The next time you notice that you’re comparing yourself, ask, “What’s right about me that I’m not getting? What’s right about my partner that I’m not getting? What’s right about this relationship that I’m not getting?”These questions take you out of the conclusion and judgment of you, of your partner and of your relationship, which will immediately open the door to new possibilities.

2. Giving Up Things You Enjoy

What do you love to do? Do you like to dance? Swim? Jog? Do you still do all of the things you love? Or have you given them up because your partner doesn’t like them?Would you be willing to let go of the idea that you and your partner have to have the same desires? What if you could do what was fun for you and your partner could do what was fun for them?Start today to choose to be, do and have the things that will contribute to you and make your life greater. When your life is greater, the relationship can be too.

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