Without wanting to be presumptuous, I can guess that you judge yourself, your partner, and your relationship on a daily basis. And your partner is, most likely, judging you right back.

When it comes to a relationship, no two people have exactly the same opinions about what’s right, wrong, acceptable, and so on; so what you get are two different judgment systems clashing, and two people locking horns and refusing to back down from how they see a situation.

The antidote to judgment is always allowance. Practicing allowance means everything that comes into your experience is merely interesting. You step away from labeling anything as good or bad—and that includes you, your partner, and the relationship.