Turning Points
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I appeared to have it all…

The perfect fiancée, two successful chiropractic practices, and a beautiful home…

Yet none of this made me happy, and inside of me, there was a big, black, bottomless hole. Unable to find a way out, I gave the universe six months: six months for life to improve, or I was out of here. At the very core of my unhappiness was the endless pursuit of perfection. I was so focused on manufacturing a life that ticked certain boxes, that I lost all sense of who I truly was. Measuring my every experience against impossibly high standards meant I always found myself lacking, and I lived in a prison of self-judgment and shame. I was in such emotional pain that life felt impossible to bear.

Then came my turning point: I discovered the tools of Access Consciousness and felt hope for the first time in years. I learned to let go of perfectionism and found a way back to my true (very joyful) nature.

Here are three key tools that changed everything for me.

1. Who Does This Belong To?

If there’s one awareness that really liberated me, it’s this. I experienced a huge shift on learning that 98 per cent of our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs are absorbed from elsewhere: our families, friends, teachers, religion — even the media. We’re continually taking on the thoughts of others and believing they’re ours.

By asking “Who does this belong to?” to my every thought and feeling for three days, I let go of so much that wasn’t mine. Do this to every thought for three days and notice how much lighter you become — and how much easier it is to make choices that are right for you.

2. Eliminate The Automatic “Bad”

Imagine that you’re really excited about going on a trip, then at the airport your flight gets canceled. How does that feel, in your body? Sinking? Tight? Heavy? Angry? Frustrated? What if, rather than immediately seeing this as “A Very Bad Thing”, you took the point of view that it’s… interesting? It’s counterintuitive, but imagine it.

Your flight got canceled: interesting. Notice it creates a totally different feeling in your body. It’s looser, and there’s more space, less solidity.  What if… that plane being canceled led to you bumping into your long, lost friend at the airport parking and while the two of you drive to town together you have the greatest business idea that makes you billionaires within five years.  For the rest of today, would you be willing to replace every judgment you have about an event, about others, about you, with ‘interesting,’ and try out this new, less solid, space of functioning in the world?

3. Start asking questions

This tool builds really well from the previous one, so let’s continue with the example: your flight’s canceled, you see it as interesting, space opens up. This is a great time to try a question, specifically: ‘What else is possible?’

The beautiful thing about this open-ended question, and any question like that, is that we can access awareness’s we wouldn’t have been able to ‘get’ from the conclusive, solid space of ‘this is wrong.’ Here is another question that would work well in the airport situation: ‘What is right about this that I am not getting?’

Questions are what enable us to take that next step when we’re stuck.

Nineteen years on from finding these tools, nothing about my life is perfect — and it’s phenomenal. You deserve a phenomenal life too. You have nothing to fear, nothing to prove — only a life to create. I hope this helps, sincerely. If we didn’t have to be perfect, what other choices would we all have?

Dain

P.S. For the full article in 10 Daily Online Magazine, please visit here.

P.S.S. Please know there is hope. There is always hope. You are far too valuable to the world. 19 years ago, I made a choice to stay and it was the greatest choice I could have ever made. The tools and help are available to change everything.  For more information and tools I’ve used, please check out my free email series at www.drdainheer.com/nevergiveup.

P.S.S. And for further exploring…

What now? Six videos about the tools I use every single day: https://drdainheer.com/whatnow/.

Who Does This Belong To? A whole playlist about the first tool I would give an alien can be found here.


  

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