By Guest Author, Anka Radakovich
Since when did acting like a gentleman become uncool? My Dad used to tell my brother that if he wanted a girl to sleep with him, he had to behave like a gentlemen. “You have to give the girl “the business” he once told my brother. “The business?” my brother smiled, “What’s that?” “That’s when you’re nice to the girl, you’re respectful, you’re charming, and you make her laugh. Do that and she’ll eventually want to have sex with you.” (My Mom told me my Dad sent her funny love letters in the mail when they first met.)
There are never enough gentlemen in this world, I say. And I am happy to see that someone is celebrating the “gentleman” as a male ideal that young men, all men, can aspire to. In my view, a “real man” is a gentleman. And I’m glad someone just wrote an inspiring book called Return of the Gentleman, Creating Nurturing Connections by Embracing the Authentic You. Dr. Dain Heer, an internationally renowned speaker, and co-creator of Access Consciousness, asks the question “Can a man be powerful and also kind?” Men need to read this book, and women need to buy it, read it, and then give it to men.
Dr. Heer says that men can be simultaneously “strong and kind,” as well as “potent, powerful, and vulnerable.” He encourages men to be “open to the infinite possibilities,” which means “being yourself.” One way to do this, he says is to stop “pretending to be something or someone you’re not.” To be more specific, men think they have to act a certain way, or feel pressured to act like the “Alpha Male,” which means constantly feeling the need to dominate women or see them as inferior. After reading the book, my take-away was that men could really take the pressure off themselves if they stopped trying to prove themselves. It’s a huge turn-on when a man has nothing to prove.
Anka
P.S. For the full article in Sexpert.com, please visit here.
P.S.S. And for more tools and tips, please check out Dain Heer’s new book called Return of the Gentleman!
It’s a start of a different possibility that men and women can choose if we are willing to give up the stereotypes of men, and go beyond the points of views of this reality. Go here to find out more! 🙂
