You have the capacity to change anything in your life… whether you have relationship issues, money worries, health concerns, or just an inner sense that you can be happier. You can create and ignite your desires the moment you choose to be more you.
Twelve years ago, I published a book called Being You, Changing The World: a handbook for creating a life of freedom and possibility. While most books have a shelf life of around 18 months, this book’s popularity has only accelerated since its publication. Why? Because the world is waking up to the power we access when we simply choose to be our authentic selves.
Three choices you can make today to be more authentically YOU
Choice #1: Let go of judgment
Judgment is such a destructive habit, and it permeates our lives almost unnoticed. From a young age, we’re practiced into dividing the world into good and bad, right and wrong. We continuously make and receive judgments, and it’s such a suffocating way to live. It’s only when you get out of the wrongness of you that you can explore the possibilities available to you. When you really get this and let judgment go, it’s like coming up for air. There is such a lightness!
That lightness is your inner guidance system, and it’s showing you the space that opens up when you let go of judgment. My tip: always choose what’s lighter — it’s how you let more of you in.
Choice #2: Ask, “Who does this belong to?”
Do you know that 98% of your thoughts, feelings and emotions aren’t yours? Take a moment to digest that possibility. Now test it. Think of a judgment you have about money. Most of us have solid ideas about how easy or hard it is to make money, and whether it’s a force for good or evil in the world. What do you believe about money?
Now ask, who does this belong to? What if these beliefs aren’t even yours? And what if you let the limiting beliefs go, and choose to believe something else, something that makes you feel lighter, and gives you a sense of space and possibility?
Choice #3: Everything is just an interesting point of view
This tool is so good for keeping you in the space of YOU. And like all these choices, it takes a dose of courage because it goes against the norms that the rest of the world live by.
Most of us think we have to either agree or disagree with everything that comes into our experience. When we’re criticized or judged, we believe we have two choices in our response: (a) we can align and agree by believing the person is right, or (b) we can resist and react by thinking they’re wrong — usually feeling the hurt and injustice very deeply.
Get the energy of those two opposing standpoints. They’re so reactive and restrictive. Essentially, they allow for zero space — and space is what’s required for us to access the possibilities of every moment. When we perceive judgments as interesting, and when no one has to be right and no one has to be wrong, space opens up.
If you choose just one of these tools, you’ll be inviting more space into your world, and from that space you can explore and be more you. What if you choose to try all three? Could you be at the precipice of your very greatest adventure: creating the life that’s unashamedly, undeniably, effortlessly YOU?
Dain
P.S. To check out and read the full article in Thrive Global, please visit here.
P.S.S. Within the past few years, we also released the companion book to Being You, Changing The World. It’s a collection of insights and stories from people around the world who are creating incredible life experiences by simply being more of who they are. We called this latest book The Very Greatest Adventure — because that’s what your life becomes when you choose to be more you. To find out more about this new book, please visit here!
