Hello friend! Have you noticed that there’s just a teeny bit of weirdness about money lately in the world? And maybe, in your world?

You may feel like you’ve done all the ‘work’ with money. Read the books, taken the courses, built the vision board – and still, there’s this persistent sense that money is somehow just out of reach.

Most of the advice in the money conversation is about doing more: earning more, charging more, saving more, investing differently, thinking differently. And doing more does have its place. But for a significant number of people, capable, hardworking, intelligent people, it’s not the missing piece.

Because the problem isn’t a doing problem – it’s actually more about what you are willing to receive.

Now that may seem like a strange thing to say, so let me explain what I mean.

Receiving isn’t a passive act. It’s not about sitting still and waiting for abundance to arrive. It’s how much you are actually open to letting things in.

Money, possibilities, support, connection, ease. Most of us are a lot more closed off to things than we realise, and that closure has very little to do with what we’re doing, and more with what we’re willing or not willing to have.

What Receiving Actually Is

Let’s take a moment to consider what receiving actually is.

Starting with what it’s not: it’s not positive thinking, affirmations or convincing yourself you deserve good things. Those are all, in their own way, still about controlling the outcome.

Real receiving is closer to being neutral. It’s the capacity to let something land without immediately classifying it as good or bad, wanted or unwanted. It’s not making something mean more than it does. And it’s not rejecting it before it’s even arrived.

Think about the last time someone offered you help and you deflected it. Or a compliment you shrugged off. Or an opportunity that felt slightly too good, so you talked yourself out of it. Those are all moments of not receiving – and it’s easy for them to go unnoticed.

The Rejection Loop

Here’s the part about receiving that tends to surprise people: you cannot selectively receive (or reject)!

When you put up a wall against something you don’t want, like an uncomfortable situation, a difficult person, a feeling you’d rather not have, that wall doesn’t discriminate. It keeps out the unwanted thing, yes. But it also keeps out what you actually do want. The energetic posture of resistance is one posture, applied to everything.

This is why it’s possible to work very hard on wanting money while simultaneously pushing it away. Somewhere in your life you’re in resistance, and that resistance is influencing more than you realise.

Your Point of View Creates Your Reality

OK so if it’s not strategy, and it’s not effort, what is it?

It’s your points of view. The ones you’ve held so long you may have even stopped noticing they’re there. Things like: money is hard to come by. I have to work myself into the ground to earn it. People like me don’t have a lot of it. If I had more, something bad would happen. I don’t really deserve it. It’ll create problems. The list goes on and on.

None of these are conscious beliefs you’d necessarily admit to if someone asked. And many you may not even realise you have.

They live somewhere quiet and barely noticeable in the way you hesitate before naming your price, the discomfort when someone pays you easily, that weird sense of relief when a big opportunity falls through.

All these points of view about money are things you’ve inherited throughout the course of your life. The tricky part is that they function as instructions, and the universe, for the most part, tends to follow them.

One Place to Start

If all this info seems a bit overwhelming, you don’t have to overhaul everything at once. But here’s a question that can contribute to you changing this:

Where in my life am I in resistance right now?

Not necessarily about money. Just where in your life do you feel that contracted, effortful, pushing-against quality? Where are you spending energy trying to control an outcome, or keep something out, or manage how things look?

Because wherever that is, that’s also where you’re not receiving. And money flows through the same doors as everything else.

The question isn’t: how do I make more money? It’s: what am I not letting in?

Which is different, yes, somewhat stranger and for a lot of people, much more useful.

Money as Symptom, Not Cause

Here’s something that has the ability to change this, if you choose: seeing money as a symptom, not a cause.

Money reflects the degree to which you’re open. To receiving, to possibilities, to yourself, to the world etc etc.

Which means the money conversation is really a receiving conversation. And the receiving conversation is really a question about how much of life you’re actually willing to let in.

That’s uncomfortable to hear if you were hoping for a better budgeting system – oops, sorry!

But it’s also liberating because it means the key isn’t out there somewhere, in the next strategy or the next income stream. It’s in your choice to be opens. And behind the walls you’ve been maintaining without realising it.

The question isn’t whether you can afford the life you want. It’s whether you’re willing to receive it.

What’s one area of your life where you notice you’re in resistance? And what do you think it might be costing you beyond just that one thing?

Grateful for you!
Dain

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